Will love hurt?

Some people fear to fall in love .........
and the fear is that other person will cheat dat person......

but the Q is that .... Is this fear valid?

Lets see.....

A person u love hurts u..... It hurts badly.

So bad dat we think our life has ended....
people even at once think of finishing their life.

When u fall in love u tend to get alienated with the rest of the world....
and when u break-up u'll find that suddenly u r left all alone in the world....
friends who were there for you earlier, u've lost touch with them.
so what to do? A big world and your are hurt and all alone.

No one is there around to heal you
No one is there with whom you can share ur feelings

Every guy will think you are too weak
and you are exaggerating this situation.

Worst situation to be in.... isnt it.
life is really bad ........... Right.

WRONG.......!!!!!!
Its not that i am sensitive to what you are bieng through.....
i know itz though.... really though.

But i've seen people getting over it... leading a much better love life thereafter.

Every Relationship whether good or bad, teaches us something.
End of every relationship actually:

• is a begining for a new relationship.
• leaves something to learn from.
• makes us more strong and matured.

Sometimes a break-up becomes essential, because we fail to understand what relationship is all about.

I've seen people falling love, they treat this relationship totally differently.

They tend to become more possessive and spend majority of time only with each other.

and then the fear of insecurity creeps in.

Then come series of soft domination and dicating... demanding more time and attention.

it goes n goes till one person feels enough is enough and decides to break-up.

I keep saying this Expectations and insecurity are key for failure of any relationship. We dont realise this earlier till we lose one relationship due to same.

Its very easy to blame the other person for failure, but we need to understand every relationship requires two people and both are responsible for everything good and bad in that relationship.

Point i wish to make is relationship will hurt you and hurt you bad, but dont fear it.

Eventually you'll end with the relationship u always had dreamt about. There is no gain without risk and u need to take the risk.

Relationships.........!!!!

Everyone talks about this..........

Sometimes we feel happy talking about it, sometimes we feel sad.......

But no one can even imagine life without it.....

So watz dis Relationship is all about.

Some Relationships may be forced... as people will think there is no way to get out for this relationship (which i feel is totally wrong)
Some are assigned by Birth .....
And some "WE CHOSE"

But Realtionship are give and take at some point or the other.

Every relationship has some component attached to it, which one may experience conciously or sub consiously.

People may not agree with this statement, but it is actually a foundation to any relationship.
It may not be only monetary or any other physical things.

A Friend will expect his friend to be there with him during all good and bad times......
Parent will toil for the future of their children and expect them to be there for them during their old age.
Love would expect the special one to make them feel special and cared all the time.

Every Relationship comes with some commitment and responsibilites towards dat relationship.
But i sincerely feel that though we should acknowledge our commitment and responsibilities towards that relationship, we should not expect much from the same.

Expection, Insecurity and possesiveness are some of the key reasons for ending any good relationships.

We tend to lose the relationship sometime only due to fear of losing the same.

We need to understand that every person has his own priorities and sometimes his priority may not match ours.

What is important is that we make every moment we share together in that relationship special rather than thinking that we may lose it sooner or later.

No relationship is permanent, but the memories we share during that relationships will last till eternity as we do cherish them every now and then.

So Guyz lets make every relationship as special and memorable as we can.

Blasts in India....!!!!!!!

India is bieng frequently targeted by the terrorists.............. Every now and then there is blast in some city.
Frequency of blast is so high that soon it will become an ordinary news to an individual.

Deep down inside every Indian will think "Y Us". I will ask all Indians what makes you think this way.

Y is Afzal Guru still alive? A guy who has openly admitted his involvement in parliament attack?

Medha Patkar with Arunditi Roy organise dharna in support of Afzal Guru....

The Hindhu published a 3 pages article in support of Afzal Guru......

Ghulam Nabi Azad says if you kill Afzal Guru there will be tension in Kashmir....???
So unfortunate to hear this from a chief minister... U r justifying to keep a terrorist who has attacked our identity our parliament fearing a tension?

Shiraj Patil says if we kill Afzal Guru then pakistan will kill an indian whom they have held as a terrorist.....???

What kind of shameless home minister is this guy??

Is this the stance just to proove that congress is ultra secular?

What ever one might say i feel by coming out openly for such murderer shows that they can support anyone just to proove that they are secular.

Other major party is no way behind.....
Our past Foriegn Minister escorts the biggest terrorist Azhar Mehmood to Khandhar to save around 200 captives in Indian Airline flight.

As per intelligence he is the key behind most of the Blast.... How many lives did we give away just to save the lives of few people in a Flight??

When will we indian comes out such short sighted fears and fight terrorism with guts? Just by shouting slogans like "Mumbai Unshakable" will not stop terrorism.Infact it appears as a joke.

We need to be more strong with our action...... How many people have been hanged to death due to their involvement in terrorist activist.

TADA is the need of an hour, due to vote bank politics congress has deprived such acts which encouraged terrorism.

As long as our govt go out of their way to please certain section, we'll continue to face such shamefull acts every now and then.

As far as i am concerned i am not afraid of this bastards called terrorist.....and will never fear their blast.I will never say "Y Me", cause i am a part of this shit system as well.

They are the biggest cowards ever existed in this world . They do beat we Indians as well in terms of cowardice, who talk about it for sometime and forget it and then wait for next blast to happen.

Come out you bastrads ...dont attack from back and hit us from front.

Optimism and Confidence

One of my friend initiated this discussion through sms.....
Found it interesting and worth discussing about.

Most of the times people think optimism and confidence both are same.....
But there is a Big difference.

Many people think optimism is expecting the BEST!!!!
But it is not True.

Lets take the most popular example to describe Optimism .....
"A GLASS HALF FILLED WITH WATER"

If optimism is expecting the best then we would expect the glass to be full.....
But datz not the reality, Glass is only half filled.

Point i wish to make over here is expect the best may tend to make us ignore the reality and our vision would be superficial....
and then we will get disappointed that we didnt get something which was not realistic anyway.

A pessimist will look at the Glass as half empty and optimist will look at the glass as half full.
So what is the difference between an pessimist and optimist?
What makes a guy an Optimist?

The answer is "ATTITUDE".....
Optimism is all about bieng postivie .... A positive frame of mind can make hell lot of difference.

Situation may not always be the way you want it to be....
Situation may be like half filled glass... not fully favouring us nor totally against us.
A pessimist will only see negative in the present situation and blame his fate or people around for this situation.
An optimist will focus on the positive and move ahead.

Confidence on other hand is bieng self assured about achieving a task.
It can be due to following parameters:

Experience : Where you might have achieved the same or similar task before.

Will-Power : When you determined to achieve that task. determination sometimes gets you more focussed and more confident as you are more passionate.

Gut Feeling: Lot of times we listen to our Gut feeling and its this gut feelings which gives us the confidence to move ahead.

Other references: Where is reference of someone achieving such task before.

So both positive attitude and good confidence complment each other and are essential for any human bieng to perform. A confident guy with positive attitude can change the world.

So what are we waiting for.... Lets change the world!!!!

All the Best!!!

People never hurt us...

Lot of times i hear people saying dat person has hurt me a lot ..............
I strongly feel no person can hurt us unless and until we allow them to......

If the person is taking you for granted every now and then....
Try to recollect the first instance you allowed him to take you for granted....

If the person always ends up arguing with u.....
When was the first time u let him do dat?

If the person has hurt your feelings ......
dat means u made urself weak in front of that person
or u might have kept very high expectations from dat person

If the person has left you....
Then either u never understood him
or he failed to understand you

Every relationship required contribution from both
So if the relationship fails.......
Y blame only one person for dat?

Lets own and acknowledge our mistake every time we get hurt....
and move ahead...
Rather than blaming others and allowing us to get hurt again.

Y force your husband to leave your In Laws

I often find girls trying to take their soul mates away from their family and often are successfull.

This game plan starts the moment they get engaged and eventually ends up by parting the dearest member of the family from his close ones.

Why dont these females ever think that their Mother in Law took a pain till 9 months to give birth to their beloved and rest of her life taking care of him?

Why dont these females ever think that their father in law spent all his hard earned money to give his son a better future. He spent this entire life thinking about the career of his son.

Why dont this females ever thinks of thier brother in law and sister in law who have spent the entire childhood with her beloved and would find it difficult to live without him.

Why dont these females realise that sooon they will be on other side of the boat when they will be the mother of a son and same son may leave you after getting married to another female.

These females have loads of reasons complaints and explanation for leaving their in laws but at the end its the same family was happy together before she entered the family. hence obviously we know who the real problem is.

Same females will even try to earn sympathy by saying i really feel sad when i left in laws family and i miss them a lot. if it is so then y the hell r u leaving them?

The guys keep saying she comes to a totally new family and find hard to adjust with the family. Were they not aware of this before... if yes then they could have chose a guy with no family......

Feels sad to hear such incedents every now n then... but then this is life!!!!