When someone shares..........

when someone shares............

everyone one has experienced this situation one time or the other.

Some feel good about it and some feel the other way round...........

There is one thing I'll never forget in my life........

Our faculty for Organisational Behaviour Ms. Aparna Sharma asked in her second lecture.....

"What would you do when someone shares his problem with you."

I being over smart replied " I'll try to solve his problem"........

she immediately asked "did he asked for the solution?"

I was shocked when i heard this Q but then she made us understand what she meant.

Majority of the times person who is sharing is not expecting any solution .... he would probably know his problem and possible solutions better than any other guy.

Then why he felt the need to share, if he is not expecting a solution?

Answer is UNDERSTANDING. He needs someone to listen to him, to understand him, to feel what he is going through.

If a person needs suggestion/solution majority of time it would be the first thing he will ask for while sharing...... Mainly because its the most important thing in his mind at that point of time.

Normally when someone shares we end up ....

• giving our suggestion
• relating the similar event in our life
• just ignore it thinking it is exaggeration
• ignore it as you cant help him out

Rather than actually listening, understanding and feeling what one wants to share.

Person has found us worth sharing his problem itself is something we should feel proud about. It clearly shows that person trusts us, is concerned about us and feels we'll understand his problem and current situation.Hence it becomes the bigger challenge for us not to let him down at that point of time.

But what should we do at this point of time.......... LISTENING is key. Saying is easy but doing is lot tougher.

We are so much involved in our own set of problem, we find it difficult to leave aside our problem for sometime and listen to his set of problems.

We feel our set of problems are much bigger than his and still he is cribbing.

Sometimes we are just not in mood to listen.

With all such thing will run in the back of our mind while he is sharing. ........how can we listen. It is really difficult but not impossible.

We need to push our personal things aside and try putting our feet in his shoes to understand what he is going through right now.It is tough no doubt but it is worth trying, at least for the sake of a person who thinks you are person worth sharing his problems.

So lets at least put our efforts, whether our efforts will help him or not is secondary but at least we'll do justice to the trust the other person has shown on us by sharing.